Plus One

Peace everyone.

For those who are single, newly spoken for, or have been "boo-lovin" forever, feel me.

You know the time between relationships when you've finally gotten over your former "other" and have decided to move on and do you? That's when you start rolling for self; going places and doing things solo, hanging out with the ladies or the fellas more, finally getting around the doing all the the things you put on the back burner when you were involved. You get used to that feeling, and enjoy it. You don't have your "other" anymore; no one to help you carry your groceries in, take you here and there, or simply do things to make your life easier. Comfort eases your mind and you realize that maybe this life ain't so bad.

And then, out of the blue, someone wonderful crosses your path. You become "plus one". You now have a reason to check that "and guest" box on invitations. Your standard Friday night date is no longer the TV.

This person can do no wrong. They are there for you. They listen. They want to help. They love any and everything about you. You are what makes them complete. In the midst of all this bliss, you often find yourself pushing away their acts of kindness. Why? Not because you don't appreciate it. Not because deep down, these are the things you wish others would have done in the past. You've been single for so long, it's been on you to take care of you. It's hard to let go of old habits. Often times, people have the "I have to look at if as if you weren't here" mentalitly. If you weren't giving me money, if you weren't putting gas in my car...and so on. I've met many offers with the "independent woman" response. Recently, my other checked me on it and gave me some new perspective. I'm having to learn to fall back and let my man, be my man. I'm having to learn that it's OK to let him in. He wants to be there for me. Even more, I'm realizing that it feels pretty good to have someone in my corner.

Am I happy learning to fall back? Yes. Am I becoming dependant? Not in a million years. My momma didn't raise no fool...

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