Growing Pains

Peace everyone.

In more ways than one, I can see the growth in myself since the beginning of '08. It's amazing how things in life change. That which used to seem so important becomes so trivial. The things I used to stress about I now look back on and laugh. As we mature, so do our actions, thoughts, and perspectives on life. We move away from the "little girl/boy" way of thinking and evolve into a new, more well-rounded version of our self It's funny; our personalities are pretty much developed and determined by the time we're 3 or 4. It's the way we allow the world to shape us that brings about change. To the core, we are who we are. We don't change. We simply create new behaviors to replace old ones. It's like being hooked on drugs---when you decide to quit, you've created a new behavior. For some, the old behavior never really gets replaced and they revert back. For others, the new behavior takes over and what was no longer has a place.

It's much the same with growth. When we allow ourselves to "grow up", we shy away from the things that we have been doing because they are comfortable or allowing others to make decisions for us. We begin to take ownership over our mistakes and (to take it a step further) recognize how that very decision may not have been the best thing. Not only that, but when we take the time to think how our actions will affect others (either before or after it has taken place)we create an opportunity for growth without really knowing it.

Many times, we may find ourselves in a position that leaves us wondering what to do next, or where do I go from here? It's in these moments, when we seek to find the answer and do, that we are truly growing. It's not until after the moment has passed and we look back do we see our accomplishments in 20/20. These are some of the most profound moments in our lives. Not only that, but when others notice it, the moment is that much sweeter.

Just a little tidbit from the things I learned during my blog hiatus :)

Be Blessed.